NEVER BE THE SMARTEST PERSON IN THE ROOM...
IT WILL ANNOY THE HELL OUT OF YOU...
I have been dwelling on this for a LONG time. I HATE that term, never be the smartest person in the room ONLY APPLIES TO AVERAGE LEVEL PEOPLE. Since a child, I have always been the smartest person in the room. My job literally causes me to constantly be the smartest person in the room. Even if people are smarter than me, I STILL ACT AS IF I AM THE SMARTEST PERSON IN THE ROOM.
But I digress...
Nah, F**K that
Fam, I have a degree in Physics, I was literally hired for my job because of my problem solving skills. I'm usually the smartest person in the room even when I do not wanna be. Like what do you do when you are just smarter than everyone. If you are a child, and you are more advance, you are stuck. It actually caused me to go into a depression as a child. I was so upset with the world because no one understood me. The crazy part is, even at 27, I still feel this way, but years of thereapy and “adulting” help me overcome the majority of those issues. I keep an eclectique group of friends so they challenge me and keep me on my toes and I love it. I am so appreciative of them and the man they are helping me become.
Now that I said that I want to add the challenge of being black on top of being smart, now add to that a corporate America job. You have to be sharper and wiser than your colleagues because you have to add the factor of “playing the game” in the mix. You have to be one step ahead of everyone to ensure that you do not have any “issues” with work ethics. You have to play work politics to the point where it makes you so cunning that you do not realize the person you became. In all honesty, if you're the only black person in a room then YOU ARE THE SMARTEST PERSON IN THE ROOM. Your mix of intelligence, common sense and instincts automatically makes you wiser than your counter parts. The only issue with this fact is that mentorship becomes extremely difficult.
When it comes to mentors, I let the organically come. I do not believe in this mess of “take the lessons, even if you do not like something morally of a person.” If I do not agree with your morals then there is a high chance some of your advice will be “pointed” in a way I do not see myself growing, therefore your energy is not one I would prefer to feed off of. I work with a large group of men all of different backgrounds. The give great advice, but they are homophobic and tell me I need to keep quiet on the fact I am bisexual when people use incorrect pronouns then the advice and the character of that person is questioned. My job is pretty open to people expressing themselves how ever they see fit, so by you saying that, means you and others like you need to open your mind.
So you have lessons that I have mastered and could teach you. This method of teaching people things I have already learned is a method of equating the playing field. So you are no longer “superior” to me, we are equals so we can work together better. It is amazing how easy it is for us to come together and solve problems when we see each other as equals at the table.
My black Kings and Queens, never let anyone who is a different hue stop you from be great! We need need more open minded thinkers in our community. It is the only way we can advance as a culture. I see the seeds being planted and growing and I look forward to all of our futures.
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