Webster Dictionary defines manners as follows:
manners plural : social conduct or rules of conduct as shown in the prevalent customs Victorian manners
For centuries, manners we are sign of class and distinguishes the difference between people with regalness and people with no real couth. After traveling the world, I have realized that different cultures have different manners and that is ok, but I want to focus on American manners. We have several unofficial rules that are supposed to be instilled into you from birth on. Unfortunately, as generataions pass on, some of these manners are not being passed down, mainly due to individuals wanting to be “different” from the generations before them. With time, comes change, but now...we are at a all time low when it comes to American Manner Practices. As I travel the country for work, I have observed Americans and how they interact.
The biggest note, is the tradition of manners being taught based on ethnicity. Some American ethnicities are over taught manners, while others are taught the minimum. After a long time of observing I figure out the differences, but all of my thoughts concluded into one overall thought.
Only African Americans are drilled on proper manners from birth until death.
This realization came from years of traveling the country and noticing different cultures all over. This post will not go through all the American customs that pertains to manners, but I will definitely mention a few examples that are prominent.
CHILDREN WILDING OUT IN PUBLIC (KID AT AIRPORT)
So a couple of weeks ago, i was in the airport. I had just landed and was heading to the escalator to catch the train to the airport exit. As I am stepping on to the escalator i noticed this kid (Caucasian, blonde hair, between the age of 9 and 15) who was RUNNING on to the escalator in an escape effort from his parent. I know what my non-Black readers are thinking “oh, he was just being a rebel! No big deal”. NO! It is a huge deal to us. If WE, as African Americans” did that we would be called savages, uncultured barbarians.
MADAME TUSADE’S - LONDON
So in 2016, i was asked to travel to London for my job on 2 occasions. The first was a spur of the moment trip, the second was better planned so i had time to figure out weekend activities. I decided to check out Madame Tousse’s Wax Musuem. I had never visited one and i figured, “Why Not??” It was a beautiful museum and i had a wonderful time, the only problem was that the tourists were literally pushing each other just to take a picture with a wax figure. It was interesting because most of the people in there this day were Middle Eastern, most of my people I knew from those regions are very quiet and peaceful. It was a true culture shot for me. I was something i brushed off after a few minutes, but it was still shocking.
GUY RUSHING ON THE TRAIN TODAY
As most people know, i like in Atlanta, and i travel a lot for work, so I deal with getting through the world’s busiest airport twice a week. With that being said, being the busiest airport means you have to deal with the busiest people rushing to board a flight. In Atlanta, we have a train underground, in the airport that takes us to all the concourses. The only problem that I have with the train is that everyone wants to get on and off the train at the same time. I wish there was a way that they could separate the floor by which concourse you're getting off of. Well this Caucasian guy is standing in the back left corner of the train and which was a dire mistake because of the fact that he only needed to ride the train for one, maybe 2 stops. So when his stopped came up, he pretty much tried to push everyone out of his way. I was standing in the middle of the train but the door was straight ahead. As I proceed forward to walk off the train he literally tries to run me over, being that i am a large black man, he backs off in fear and allows me to work forward. I rolled my eyes, and sarcastically gestured my hands so that he could go forward, he knew he had pissed me off and that is all that I needed to move on with my my life.
PREMIUM LINE PEOPLE
As a frequent traveler, we get perks for being loyal to a particular airline. With that membership, we get access to boarding the plane early as well as upgrades (I am actually typing this article in first class on a flight from Houston). Well, every flight, there are about 5 frequent flyers who always stand right in front of the ticket scanner so they can be the first people to board the plane, which makes no sense. Especially since all the first class cabin is always seated first and we get extra time before the rest of the people. It is ridiculous in all honesty, but these people always stand in the way of the pre-boarders (older people who need assistance, families with strollers, and passengers who need extra time walking to their seat). It very annoying but I mean these privileged pricks are not corrected by the gate agent.
GUY WHO REACHED OVER LADY SITTING DOWN
So this one was just annoying, and actually rude. I was sitting on a flight as we were boarding, this young lady was sitting in the aisle seat and a passenger (male) was either seating next to her or in the window seat. Anyway, he reached over this young lady to put here stuff down, instead of just saying excuse me or allowing the girl to get up so that he could get in his seat. Then he proceeded to cross over her to get to his seat...it was a HUGE invasion of privacy and personal space and i felt so sorry for the young lady.
IM ALMOST DONE...
I truly thought about this and i even asked a few people, but it proven that people of African descent are entailed with manners from birth on. We are taught that this will ensure us being safe in society, but in all honesty it doesn't. We are still shot by cops, made into criminals and looked down upon as less than. Unless of course, we assimilate and still get shot and held at a lower standard. It is actually annoying having all these social behaviors and we are still considered less than. It's crazy, even the black children who are considered “bad” have manners and presents them to people they respect, even if they act out.
We are the standard for class in my eyes and we should start acting like it!
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