I know a lot of my friends considers me a “strong friend” and yes I have occasionally reposted things on social media about “Checking up on the strong friend”.
Years ago I used to think that think that this is necessary for not only your strong friends, but your weak friends...wait scratch that...ALL FRIENDS
YOU NEED TO CHECK UP ON ALL PEOPLE YOU TRULY CONSIDER FRIENDS
if you don’t, then you are shitty friend...
I’m not saying that you need to check up on all friends all the time but the closest ones i would say once a week, middle grade once a month and associates once every 3 months if they up for promotion to friend.
I’ve actually began asking my friends to do stuff and actually blocking off time on my calendar for this. It ensures that we actually meet and that I don’t forget (because i will and it will completely blow your mind how my attention span works). Like me and 2 friends just planned something, like 2-3 weeks from now. We all are dating, working crazy jobs, drinking water, staying moisturized and trying to find balance all around.
Your friends need you and you need them. Don’t let relationships and busy schedules stop you from having that friendship bond. I guarantee you will regret it, especially if you drop your communication with friends that are trying to always be there for you.
Now, the flip side to this is if your friends no longer consider you their friend. They cancel plans, or don’t respond, or don’t actually support you then you should knowmthis, they know what they are doing. Instead of just talking with you, they pull immature stunts like that. That’s the friends I cut off once i realize their antics. I’m pushing 30, i do not have the time and especially not the energy to have to nurture a childish friendship. I’m trying to constantly grow.
I had one who i knew for almost 5+ years, I thought everything was fine until me and one of my exes broke up. See they formed a stronger bond we had, which is fine I get it, but they forgot one thing, I’m usually cool with my exes even after a breakup. So when the friend had a problem with me or wanted to be messy, my ex would let me know when they did some fake shit. Instead of talking to me, they would run to him and he would relay the info to me lol. That told me that there was a growth problem between us. I confronted them and they of course denied it. So I just let it go.
I have a low tolerance for lack of communication during human interaction. This includes friends, family, significant others and anyone else who is in my presence…
YOU HAVE BEEN WARNED!